Happy 13th Camden!

happy birthday Camden, you’re a teenager!  Here are 10 things that jump to mind as you reach this special milestone:

  1. being with you – is always an absolute highlight. We’ve had awesome adventures over the years, whether 3M, family or one-on-one.  This past summer we did some (very) cool things, including kayaking, boogie-boarding, paddle-boarding, Dave & Bustering and even climbing up giant boulders and jumping (over and over) into Mendum’s Pond.  I love creating “adventures” where we’re doing something fun, cool, challenging, different.  I’m blessed I’m still able to physically do these things, even though I can’t keep up with you!
  2. conversations– we have such interesting conversations. It’s no longer kid stuff.  We discuss politics (how we’re so dismayed and disappointed with Trump); sports; things you’re learning in school.  I feel like I’m having a conversation with an adult – but better!
  3. laughing – Seeing your eyes light up and your smile fill a room warms my soul.
  4. learning from you – one of the superawesome benefits of being a grandfather is what you can learn from your grandkids – if you keep your eyes and ears open. You’ve help me with many things, jumping right in there, taking things over.  This includes helping me figure out my iPhone (I am a sadly pathetic).
  5. receiving –  I love the presents you give me on special occasions and proudly display them in my office.  Recent gifts include your “bird’s eye view” drawing of a city from the rooftops.  The green 3-D Eiffel Tower you created.  The hand-made wooden bowl.  Your Camden silhouette.  I dig your creativity and am always warmed by your thoughtfulness.
  6. your many talents and attributes –  I always notice – and appreciate – what makes you tick and makes you special.  What jumps to mind? Your energy, curiosity, smarts, fearlessness, creativity, competitiveness, motivation, personality and sense of humor.
  7. watching you grow – it’s cool watching you grow up.  No longer a kid, now an emerging young adult.  In less than two years you’ll be in high school.  How can time fly by so fast?  I treasure every single moment.
  8. getting a hug from you –  there’s nothing better
  9. your friend-making nature –  I’ve had many occasions where I’m in the same room as you and a friend, or I’m watching you playing a sport with friends, or I’m actually doing something with you and your friends.  This Spring, I walked with you and Eli to the special bike trick path you created.  You wanted me to see it, and I’m glad I did.  You’re a kind, good friend to many, and this will serve you well all the days of your life.
  10. being your Papa –  I’m so incredibly lucky having you in my life. You make me a better person and make life interesting and fun.  Can’t wait to see how you transform in the years ahead.

Love you lots, happy birthday!

 

a #1 summer day

Thursday, August 9 arrived with a red sun with clear skies –  a beautiful summer day, perfect for our outing to nearby Mendum’s Pond in Lee, NH., only minutes from Durham.

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The word “pond” is a misnomer – Mendum’s is a good sized lake, one of the clearest, cleanest in the state.  No wonder why it’s the summer outing location for UNH.   We hiked the dirt road in, grabbed a picnic table, dropped off our gear and jumped into the water. The temp was Goldilocks perfect – not too cold or too warm, just right.  We swam around the edge of the lake, climbed on some rocks and went by a couple docks.

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We noticed a large boulder far away in the water.  “It would be cool to check that out,” Camden said. “Yeah!,” Emma said.  Our bare feet walked on soft pine needles (and some poison ivy – I later discovered) to the rental building. Our choices: canoes; individual kayaks, tandem kayaks and paddle boards.

First up: the paddle board.  We saw them all the time at Moody Beach, they looked easy. Wrong!  They require a perfectly balanced stand in the middle of the board.  All three of us struggled.

Next up – the canoe. I hadn’t been in one since my Boy Scout days at Camp Carpenter in Manchester, NH when I was 12 years old.  I remembered them being ‘tippy’ and was a nervous wreck. We all had life jackets on, but we were conscious of sudden movements.  I paddled in the stern; Camden in the bow and Emma you kept your body completely still in the middle.  We were all a little nervous; it wasn’t relaxing. Somehow we made it back to shore high and dry.

It was past noon and we had worked up a big appetite so we took a break and chowed down subs, chips and drinks.  Everything tasted fantabuloso, eating outside in the great outdoors.  In a flash you lunged into dessert – Camden making a row of double stuffed Oreos disappearr in a flash.  An entire package of Milanos disappeared inside Emma’s slender belly.  I watched in amazement.  It wasn’t that long ago (to me at least) you were kids who barely cared about food.  Now, with 13 year old birthdays coming fast, your metabolisms are at full speed.

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We walked off our lunches, hiking across a bridge onto an island, covering every part and trail.  Very cool.  Emma you closed your eyes standing on a rock with Camden – funny, look at the photo – you look relaxed!

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Our third mode of transportation worked best – individual kayaks.  They were easy to paddle with little danger of flipping.  As our confidence grew, we looked beyond the shore to distant locations along Mendum’s Pond.  “Let’s paddle out to that giant boulder” Camden asked.  Emma said, “Let’s do it!” Our energy was back and we were ready to burn calories.

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It took awhile to get out there.  When we arrived, we discovered several big, granite boulders in the water, far enough off shore to potentially jump off.  I was nervous – you’re never sure what’s under the water and I didn’t want any injuries to my beloved grandkids.  The water looked deep and dark but I needed to make sure.  I held my breath and went straight down to see if I could touch my feet – it was way over my head. The sun was hot and the dew point was in the 70’s, a very humid day.  You were itching to get into the water.

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We paddled over to the big boulder we had seen from shore. “Hey, there’s a rope on it,” Emma said.   A few boys were climbing up, holding onto the rope, and jumping into the water.

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When we got close to it, we saw its width and height. You had to climb up a steep rock to get up there, and once you did, it was a 15-20 foot drop to the water below. I was feeling good about the safety, having watched the boys jump in repeatedly.  But none of us had ever jumped from this height into the water.

Camden scampered up like a cat and was in the water before I could even get up there.  Emma you took more time getting up there, being sure of your footing. It was tricky and dangerous.  One slip and we could easily scrape our skin, crash back down, break bones and worse.  I asked Emma to wait for me before jumping off.

I struggled climbing up there – it was steep and there was no easy way.  Bare feet made it hard – and dangerous.  I finally made it – it was higher than expected.  I jumped in before Emma so I could be double-sure it was safe.  The jumping off didn’t bother me, it was fun.  From the water, I shouted a few pointers to Emma-  you were standing by the edge figuring out your strategy.  For a moment I wasn’t sure if you were going to make the leap. Then, off you went into the air!  Success!! I was so proud of both of you for trying something new and scary, conquering your fear.  There’s something fulfilling about trying something new that’s exhilarating.

We were hooked and did it several more times. Emma was a pro after the second climb and Camden continued to scamper up. I did it three times, struggling with the climb, but loving the drop. You didn’t want to leave – “just one more time Papa,” but it was time to start heading back.

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Close to shore, the water got real shallow; people were walking around in what you’d guess would be deep water. We got out of our kayaks and walked all the way to the nearby island (NAME). We stumbled over rocks below the surface, there were many.  I picked up one of them and we looked at it.  “Hey, it looks like a number one!”  It was heavy but we decided to take it back to shore and bring it home.  I swam the crawl stroke holding it to shore – no easy feat.

By the time we packed up our stuff, It was 5pm and time to walk back to the Explorer.  The number one rock was an added burden, but a fitting end to what we all agreed was a number one kind of day.

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hangin’ with Dave, Buster & Fudd

We had a blast hanging out at Dave & Buster’s on a July day, playing a zillion games, laughing and enjoying ourselves.  We almost had the place to ourselves in the morning.  Having worked up an appetite, we sat down at D&B’s but the waitstaff couldn’t deal with the volume of customers, so we jumped in the Explorer and headed a few exits North to our all-time favorite, Fuddrucker’s, for a delicious lunch of burgers, shakes and fries.  Then back South to D&B’s for more game playing.  Emma had the hot hand, winning seven giant balls to take home and share.  Our favorite was the Jurassic Park virtual reality; it felt like we were walking through Dino-Land.  You guys earned so many points by the end of the afternoon everyone went home with arm-fulls of swag.  A good time was had by all, including yours truly, who battled the Rockin’ Sockin’ Robots and won.  Check off another classic 3M Adventure.  IMG_6355IMG_6363IMG_6358IMG_6366IMG_6360

saving my butt, winning the war

While your parents went to IKEA in Massachusetts, you, Ainsley and Madigan hung out with Grammy and me at our house.  After filling hungry bellies with Patty B’s yummy italian food, everyone got busy.

You hustled down to the basement and came back with two board games – the classic Dark Tower we dearly love, and one that’s been sitting idly that I’ve never played: Axis & Allies.  I was thinking to myself “Hmm, ambitious.  We have maybe five hours before your parents return.”

Ainsley did her nightly thing of remote game playing with Molly – this time setting up shop in my office.  Madigan wanted to play a board game too, so we visited our basement retail store; she selected Don’t Wake Daddy, a kid classic.  Grammy helped her play it and it soon became a Maddie favorite.

I’m a huge history buff and game lover, so Axis & Allies seemed like a no brainer when I bought it.  Recreate World War II and see who conquers the globe.  United States, United Kingdom and Russia vs. Germany & Japan.  You took over the good guys (3 nations); I hung out with the two bad guys.  Everything seemed chipper, upbeat and rosy.  A new board game we’ve never played before – how cool!!

Then we took the cover off the game.

Holy crap! 

I’ve never seen so many pieces in one game. Until now, RISK held the prize for most complicated and longest game with the most accessories.  Axis & Allies blew it out of the water.  It took us over two hours – just to set it up!

I had begun by reading the directions out loud so you could hear and react, but soon grew flustered: the manual was 40 pages long!   We soon learned that each turn by each nation required seven different steps.  It was taking a half hour for just the first nation to get through its turn.

The more I tried to figure things out, the more confused I got.  There were layers and layers of details, many instructions in print so tiny I needed reading glasses full time. You sensed my sad situation and asserted yourself in a kind, loving way, taking over the game and being my patient guide.

You actually figured things out.  I gotta tell you, I was blown away.  I’ve always considered myself a board gamer, but Axis & Allies had beaten me into submission.  It took my intelligent soon-to-be 11 year old grandson to wrestle the alligator and tape its mouth shut with duct tape (that’s a euphemism for what you accomplished).  If it had been up to me, the alligator would have eaten me whole.  You saved my life dude.

Four hours into things, we had completed one round of play with each of the five nations going just one turn.

An hour later, your Mom & Dad walked in. The movie Grammy and the girls were watching seemed easy and fun: Peter Rabbit.  You were interested, but needed closure on the game.  We went back to the table.  My head was swimming, but I made my last move with Japan capturing Los Angeles. You followed with the United States capturing Tokyo.  Two bold moves that never happened in the real WWII.  Kind of cool. Imagine if the Axis nations had really won that war!  How would the world be different today?

If we played this game to the end, it would take us a few days to complete.

Then again, it could be a week.

Maybe one month.

Possibly an entire year.

It’s a darn good thing you were at my side.

I tell you, the guy who invented Axis & Allies is a sadist.  I’m exhausted.

welcome to a new world bionic Grammy!

IMG_4864 IMG_4984Grammy has a lot of pride so when she had to resort to a wheelchair and electric scooter to get around Disney World in February, it was a clear sign how much pain she was in.  She’s only 62, but has endured 3+ years of chronic pain from a bad left hip that made walking a painful daily experience.  The fact that she never complained and kept it to herself is all the more amazing. She’s way too young (62) to live this way!

Good news!  She finally got the hip replacement surgery she needed June 4. It was a big operation, replacing a worn-out hip loaded with arthritis where bones were hitting bones… for a new one made out of polished ceramic and metal alloys. 

The hand-made cards she received from her grand-kids meant the world to her – you can see them on the flower photo below.

 

IMG_6073Grammy has now become…the beautiful bionic woman!

After a month or so she’ll be able to get around pretty well. This will get her back to a healthy state of body and mind.  We’re so happy for her.

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Attitude is altitude

Spring baseball 2018 is underway and you’re having a good season, hitting the ball, making nice catches in the infield and outfield and playing with confidence.  I can’t help but think back one year ago when you did something tough, scary and challenging, returning to play baseball after a 4-5 year layoff.

That took guts.

Despite having forgotten some of the rules of the game and position plays over the years (when you played soccer or lacrosse), you sucked it up and got out there, putting yourself in tough situations game after game.  You made mistakes, sure, but you didn’t back down, learning and refreshing along the way.

This mindset will make you a winner your whole life Camden – taking risks, having fundamental confidence in yourself, forgiving yourself for the inevitable screw ups and learning how to get better.

“Attitude is altitude” is one of my favorite quotes.  Julius “Dr. J.”Erving said it – he was a basketball revolutionary- reinventing the game with his incredible slam dunks, defensive stops and smooth shooting.  No one had ever jumped as high, played as flashy or made a stronger personal statement on the court. He ended up being one of the greatest of all time.

You know what “Attitude is altitude” means.  The people who become successful in life don’t sit around and feel bad for themselves.  When tough times hit (and we all have them throughout our lives), they consciously choose to take a positive view, instead of a negative view.  Thinking optimistically shifts things instantly, making the worst day a hopeful day.  If you believe things will improve, they will.  If you don’t, they don’t.

That’s what you did getting back to baseball.  You could have sat back and said “I haven’t played for five years, I’m nervous, people will think I stink,” yadda, yadda, yadda, but you didn’t.  You got out there, tried, learned and moved forward.  Proud of you.

Always remember, Attitude is altitude” and you’ll SOAR.

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making dreams come true

In my January blog I told the story of how Grammy and I worked hard to build a better life for ourselves and our family.  The blog ended with my new company – Soulful Advantage –  and how I would work hard to see if I could visit New Zealand.  Good news!  I made it happen by proving and convincing my new client they would benefit by me being in New Zealand in person vs. having meetings over the phone or via the Internet.   After much back and forth discussion, they agreed it would benefit their company and offered to pay my way.  It’s a great example of making your own dreams come true vs. waiting for them to magically happen.  Work hard and you will find a way!!

My April adventure included three bucket list dream destinations:

  1. Stepping foot on Australia, my fifth continent. Africa & Antartica remain!
  2. New Zealand – the North & South islands
  3. The Sydney Opera House, the #1 “Wonder of the Modern World”

In addition, I also stopped in Las Vegas and spent time in Oahu, Hawaiii (my fourth time on that island) on my journey Down Under.

My journey:  Left April 11, returned April 23.  9 flights; four different airline brands; 30 car/taxi rides; three islands; two continents; 20 time zones!

“I’m off on an adventure!” (Bilbo Baggins, the most famous Hobbit)

Here are photo highlights:

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boring a koala bear at the Taronga Zoo in Sydney, Australia

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I was amazed at how this golden guy floated on air – Sydney waterfront

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beautiful light on Waikiki Beach, Oahu, Hawaii. Love how the outrigger framed the beach and sky.

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passing through Las Vegas at midnight on my way to Australia – have been to Vegas many times and it’s always a beehive of activity. It was weird seeing it so dead.

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early morning view of famous Diamond Head on Waikiki Beach

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overlooking the #1 Wonder of the Modern World, Sydney Opera House

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greeting at 2am @ airport as I stepped foot in the land of Kiwis – my #2 bucket list dream destination

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very cool hot pink bike path, as seen from Auckland Sky Tower, 1,076 feet high

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Auckland Sky Tower @ dusk

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my favorite photo – the famous lone tree of lake Wanaka, with the Southern Alps behind it. Such an incredibly unique and beautiful setting.

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I thought Glacier National Park in Montana had the most waterfalls in one place, but New Zealand’s famous Milford Sound had a LOT more. Here’s one amazing example.

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even though I was in New Zealand in April it was their Fall. Here’s a shot of pretty Arrowtown in the autumn.  Our cold January is June in New Zealand!  February is July and March is their August!

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overcast and about to rain but spectacular – Eglinton Valley, Fiordland National Park, South Island. Could have stood there forever

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Mirror Lake, Fiordland National Park, South Island, New Zealand

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Coronet Peak with Queenstown in distance at base of the mountain V

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stunning vista outside of Queenstown with golden poplar trees. Poplars are Popular in the south island!

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Milford Sound within Fiordland National Park

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Hobbiton, New Zealand, North Island – home of the Hobbit and Lord of the Rings. This amazing landscape is in the Lord of the Rings and Hobbit movies.

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Wai-0-Topu geot thermal hot spring in North Island – about an hour’s ride from Hobbiton. Sulphur smell is disgusting; colors amazing.

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gorgeous late afternoon light looking at the Remarkables mountain range – on way to Queenstown airport

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Papa Bear in front of Bilbo Baggins hobbit hole at Hobbiton, North Island

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where the Hobbits threw a big party

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crazy green water pool at Wai-O-Topu geothermal

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amazing attention to detail at the Hobbiton movie set included hobbit clothes drying on clotheslines

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view of movie set when you walk in – Bilboa Baggins’ hobbit hole is below the first tree on the upper left

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looking down at the Hobbiton village wiht Green Dragon Pub (where I drank a Stout beer and ate a meat pie)